This week, we’re talking about the next way to begin simplifying your life: downsize. If you missed the first post that gave 5 ways to simplify your life, check that out HERE. If you want more help in learning to say no, check out this post.
In the first post of the “simplify your life” series, I talked about downsizing as one of the ways you can start making your life more simple. But, what do I mean by downsizing? Downsizing could mean something different to each of us. You need to figure out what you can do without and which of those things are in your control to change.
Could you do without two rental houses to keep up? Could you do without three bathrooms to clean? What about those five mixing bowls? Or those three Bible studies (yep I said it!) or books you are reading? Me too. I can do without all of that. Some things just cause more stress than they are worth.
For me, I know that I need to downsize my schedule. I can’t handle as much right now as I have in the past, and that’s okay. I’m trying to slow down, so I’ve removed a few things from my schedule, and I’m refusing to take on anything new. I knew that I needed to do this as soon as I noticed that I consistently treat my kids like a distraction, an inconvenience even. Not okay! Right now we are enjoying fewer activities on the evenings and during the day. We are taking a breather and really starting to enjoy some time together as a family again.
What about you? What do you need to downsize? Here are 4 options to help you get started:
4 Areas to Downsize for a More Simple Life:
1. Your Stuff
If your stuff is giving you an excessive amount of stress, it’s time to downsize. In fact, if you can even call your stuff “your stuff” that’s a good sign that these items are no longer valuable to you. “Stuff” isn’t what we call items that mean a lot to us, the items that we love. If this is you, focus on one area of stress at a time. Don’t try to sell all of your stuff in one weekend. Pick one room or area that is out of control and begin there. Are cups or snacks falling our of your kitchen cabinets when you open them? Are you stressed when you cook because you can never seem to unearth the right measuring cup or pan? Then you may want to start on your kitchen. If you can’t keep up with cleaning the size of house you have, consider selling. Again, this is about stress. If it isn’t stressing you out, leave it alone.
2. Your Schedule
Do you feel like you never have time for the things you want to do or the people in your life? If that’s something you are ready to change, start by evaluating your schedule. First, write down everything that takes up your time and try to estimate how much of your time they take up. Include work, activities, driving, watching tv, getting ready, reading, browsing social media…include every thing. Second, make a list of things you HAVE to do, and a list of the things you WANT to do (even if they aren’t already part of your schedule). What are you willing to give up? What can you sacrifice so you have time for what matters most to you?Also consider whether or not your obligations can be controlled at all. Could you work fewer hours? Could you occasionally work from home to cut back on commute time? Third, select at least one thing that you are going to take out of your schedule and either replace it with something more important…or simply take a breather if that’s more what you need right now. Need more direction? Check out this post on decluttering your schedule.
3. Your Expectations
You might just be too hard on yourself or others. This one might be more difficult to recognize, so I’ll try to give you an example. There was a time in my life when I felt really stressed, but when I thought about why, I realized it had more to do with the standard I had given myself. I had a certain ideal of who I wanted to be, and I tried to force myself to be that person IMMEDIATELY. I didn’t take the necessary steps to actually become that person, to change my heart. Instead, I forced myself to fake it til I made it. This is a good way to burn out quickly! Maybe for you, you expect yourself to balance a busy schedule with family/friend time, or you expect yourself to keep the house clean with 5 kids. Or you expect yourself to be good at every area of your job. You need to downsize your expectations. It’s great that you want to be better, but don’t expect to be better today. Give yourself time. Give yourself grace. Take small steps to reach your goals.
4. Your Negative Thoughts
For the most part, negative thoughts need to go. I am the first to admit that I hold onto negativity in the name of being realistic. And, sometimes that’s true, but often it’s not. I’ve learned to recognize when my negative thoughts are truthful and keeping me realistic, and when they are lies and holding me back from a full life. If you struggle with this as well, you will probably need help. PLEASE seek it out. Visit a therapist. Talk to a trusted friend. Start to separate your thoughts into fact and fiction. Balance the negative truths with all of the positive truths.
Stay tuned next week to learn more about the third way to simplify your life: slow down.
What do you need to downsize? What step will you be taking today to begin the process of simplifying your life? Let us know in the comments!