Summer for us is about slow mornings, getting outside, and popsicles. It’s about spending time with family and friends before everyone hunkers down for the winter. We savor our evenings talking on the patio, playing catch or wiffle ball in the backyard, and riding bikes to the gas station for treats. For us, summers are about doing less…the way I wish all year could be.
It’s this time every summer when I start getting anxiety about the school year starting. Once school hits it’s easy to pack in as many activities as possible on the evenings and weekends. It doesn’t take long before I’m exhausted and overwhelmed. I make it until the first week of October and then I fall on my face into a mess of kids’ sports, holiday planning and preparations, and church activities. It’s always too much. It’s more than I can reasonably handle. Honestly, it’s the reason that an innocent invitation from a friend or family member can feel like an assault on MY TIME.
The Pattern of Too Much
This year, I’m determined to get ahead of this and stop the pattern of too much. Too much is different for everyone, but it’s easy to spot. When you can’t add a playdate for your child, when you can’t give yourself a break, when you can’t get together with a friend that you love…you are doing too much. When you have picked up all the toys and an hour later they are all over the house, when you can’t go away for the weekend (because then who would take care of the lawn?!), or when you have to reorganize your closet (again) because you have a new pair of shoes to fit in…you have too much.
Naturally, when we feel like we’re missing something in our lives, we keep adding more and more. For a moment that pair of shoes made you feel like the hottest mom at the playground. But now you think you need something else. I think I know why a new pair of shoes never satisfies, why organizing more never satisfies, why more Bible studies never satisfies.
We were made for more…but we can only have it with less.
Making Room for the Best
We need to do less good stuff and own less good stuff in order to have the time and money for great stuff.
Ultimately, it’s not my goal to get more done, but to have less to do. I always want there to be flexibility, for there to be margin, in my days. And in regards to my things, I don’t want to organize more; I want less to organize. I don’t want to waste hours organizing a cluttered kitchen when I could just own what I actually love and use and never have to organize my kitchen again.
Don’t get me wrong, I love organizing. But that doesn’t mean I want to spend every moment of every day doing it. 😉