Simple living, or minimalism, is my new lifestyle. It has always been alluring, but it didn’t take hold of me until a couple of years ago. Until then, I was always feeling stressed and I didn’t know why. I didn’t do as much as so-and-so, so I didn’t think I had the right to be as overwhelmed as I felt.
I actually felt guilty for feeling overwhelmed all the time when I had three kids to take care of and a husband who needed me. It took a lot of self-reflection and exploration to figure out what the problem was.
I really began to think about what was causing me stress and what I could do about it. I knew that cleaning up after my family was causing me unnecessary amounts of stress. But, how could I get them to stop leaving messes around the house?
And I knew that I was always in a hurry and exhausted, but what parent isn’t? It’s easy to compare yourself to those around you and either think, “This is just the way life is these days”, or “Why can’t I keep up like everyone else?”.
How can we live more simply?
The truth is, there is much I have zero control over. But there’s also much that I can control. I can control how we spend our money, how much we own, how much we put on our schedule, and how much time we spend on priorities vs. non-priorities.
There are many reasons why we sometimes think we don’t have control over our lives. But they are our lives aren’t they? We might think that certain people expect certain things from us. Or we might think our kids will hate us if they don’t have ALL the toys.
But the truth is, people’s expectations of you will gradually change after you change your expectations for yourself. If living more simply is something you really want, something you need, you shouldn’t worry what others will think. The people who love you will support you even when they don’t understand.
So, what does simple living mean? You might call simple living minimalism. Because being a minimalist has many assumptions and sometimes negative connotations associated with it, I want to address what minimalism is, and what minimalism isn’t.
What is Minimalism?
In short, minimalism is living with less. How much less is up to you.
Minimalism is living simply. How simple is up to you.
Minimalism is about getting more out of life. What you want to get out of life is up to you.
And minimalism is about only having and doing what you love. What you love and need in your life is up to you.
What is Minimalism NOT?
Minimalism is NOT necessarily having a practically empty house with white walls. You decide how much stuff you need.
Being a minimalist does NOT necessarily mean depriving yourself of any of life’s luxuries. You decide how to spend your money and time.
Being a minimalist does NOT necessarily mean having no job and traveling the world. You decide what you want to do with your life.
Minimalism is NOT a set of legalistic rules. You set your own rules.
So Why Might Minimalism be For You?
Although being a minimalist can sound too difficult of a goal to attain, it doesn’t have to be. This is why I repeat over and over that it’s up to you. Only you can really know what you need to give up in order to live a life more fulfilled. Only you can know what you need to start doing in order to get more out of life.
If I could sum up the benefits of being a minimalist in one word, it would be contentment. Minimalism is all about contentment, and contentment is the only thing that truly brings you joy in life.
The Benefits of Minimalism
So what about being a minimalist causes you to learn to be content and experience more joy? Here are just a few benefits of minimalism that lead you to contentment and joy:
- Being a minimalist allows you to give who/what you love more of your time because you aren’t wasting your time on unimportant things.
- Minimalism causes you to have more energy because you aren’t wasting energy on unimportant things.
- Being a minimalist leaves you feeling less stressed because you don’t have more or do more than you can reasonably handle.
- Minimalism gives you more space to live your life and be you because your house, schedule, and mind aren’t cluttered.
- Being a minimalist saves you money because you buy less and are intentional about what you spend your money on.
- Minimalism provides you more freedom because your money, possessions, health, or other people aren’t dictating your life.
My Journey to Becoming a Minimalist
On my journey to simple living and becoming a minimalist, I’ve worked my way here gradually.
It took being super stressed about keeping up my house to push me to pursue having less. Over the years, I have decluttered, and decluttered again, so many times. In doing this, I’ve realized that there was a flaw in my system. I was still buying too much. I was still buying things that looked really cute on the shelf but didn’t have much use in my home.
Purchases I made that were inexpensive even, were now causing my home to be cluttered and me to be overwhelmed.
For a long time, I have adopted the one thing in, one thing out method. Essentially this means that when I bought something new, something in my house had to go.
I found that it was easy…a little too easy perhaps…to find something I no longer needed or loved. Now I’ve taken the intentionality one step further and really take the time to assess my purchases. I try not to bring anything into my home or life that won’t add GREAT value.
There’s More Coming About How to Minimize and Simplify Your Life!
There are many ways that I have begun to put this into practice, and over the next months I plan to share them with you. For instance, I’ve sold or donated things I haven’t used in the last year. I’ve also adopted having a capsule wardrobe since March of this year. My meal planning is even about to get an overhaul so that it’s more simple and less work for me.
I can’t wait to share all of these practices with you plus even more! Stay tuned. 😉
In the meantime, sign up for my FREE Simple Living Workbook designed to help you jumpstart your new simple lifestyle. The workbook will help you find motivation, set goals, decide on next steps, and hopefully inspire you to stay the course. Click on the image below to get your workbook!
If you want some ideas for how to simplify your life, START HERE. After that, check out the following posts for helpful tips for simplifying different areas of your life:
- Simplify Your Time
- Downsize Your Stuff, Schedule, Expectations, and Negative Thoughts
- Slow Down
- Plan For Your Priorities
What is alluring to you about being a minimalist? Share with me in the comments!